Gaining the Confidence

Complimenting Tips

Never compliment a person with things that are known as it will fail to make an impression. If you compliment a girl who has long beautiful hair by saying that she has nice hair, she will say a 'Thank You' and forget it. Try to compliment on things that will make an emotional impact like complimenting a girl to be intelligent, who was turned down by people as silly.

Never talk your plus points directly and gain the disdain of the people as they feel you are showing off. Reveal your traits indirectly and let people realize it rather than saying it loud.

To Err is Human

All humans have their drawbacks and unmet needs, and they try to fulfill these in their partner. Some even look for support in their potential partner. A woman might be needing some support to stand on her own when others are dismissing her to be weak. A man who wants to be powerful will like the company of a female who makes him feel powerful and is supportive in this regard.

Summary so far notes the following points:

• Try to realize what the person wants from life.
• Understand this
• Realize and help in their goals.
• Provide support.
• Thus you can gain a higher score.
• Provide that Secure Feeling

Security is a major factor that brings two people together. The security factor remains a significant element in all relationships like friendship and partners. A simple way to make a person feel secure is to show that you are like them or like one of their parents.

Matching with Your Lover

Connect with similarities

You cannot be similar to a person, and it is not necessary that you should love only a  person who is similar to you. Simple examples of similarities can be

• Similar morals
• Show similarity of beliefs like God, religion, etc. if the person has high regards to such matters.
• Establish a good rapport by seeming similar.
• Interest in same hobbies. This can work like a magic factor between couples who are facing problems in married life.
• Express similarity in social status.
• Never show the person that you have the same trait as he/she dislikes.

There are several other methods to express similarity but do not make the mistake of showing this directly. The direct expression will reveal to the person that you are trying to impress and the mysteriousness mentioned above will be lost which will hamper the relationship.

Till Now: Let's see where you are till now. First, you get close to the person after some research and get to know their needs and character. Works towards increasing score based on this information and create the attraction and obsession required. You then work the mysterious signals by appearing and disappearing.

How to Establish Rapport

A good rapport can be built with a person by some similarities where the person will feel comfortable in your presence. This is not directed at the conscious mind but has to create a spark in the unconscious mind. A wrong move towards the conscious mind can spoil the whole effort. An easy way can be to come down to their level and try to stay close to their gesture, outlook towards life, etc. Simple methods like coming down to take up a similar posture can also help towards building rapport. But take care not do make it seem like mimicking. You can get a positive signal if the person later changes posture to match yours.

Matching Voice

You can match your tempo, volume, pauses, etc. to sound similar to the person whom you are trying to build the rapport. This should be essentially done without letting the other person know of it. The speed of speech, style of pausing, usage of expression, style, etc. can be imitated. When done tactfully without letting the person be aware of it, it can touch the subconscious mind to create the rapport.

Matching Words

Using same words can also find your way to the person's subconscious mind to build the rapport. Repetitive words, phrases used, and object names used by the individual can be noted and used. Make sure you do not make the person offended.

Facts suggest that people have a liking towards names starting with the same alphabet. So you should be able to realize the impact that the same characteristic can create. The trick is to make the person feel at ease and in the comfort zone while in your presence whereby the mind can connect unknowingly.

BEING THAT

Be Mysterious

It's a common fact that people are more intrigued and anxious to know about individuals who are mysterious. Boring and open-book kind of people is easily forgotten. But it is not wise to show off as it creates a negative impact.

Consider a scenario where a person enters a group of people and says that he owns the yellow Ferrari parked outside. People will reconsider if he is saying the truth and many others will write him off as show off. At the same time, a person places a BMW key on the table where all can see; it raises mystery as they wonder if this person owns a BMW. This is not to prove the point by owning an expensive car, but to show how to remain mysterious.

Be Like an Open End Movie

Open end movies are rather intriguing. Once you see the movie you have a tendency to know more about it. Even your favorite TV series which end with a mysterious note will make you wait for the next episode. You can maintain a mysterious factor to yourself without expressing yourself as an open book. With a little mystery around you, the other person will have a tendency to know more about you. Never make the major mistake of expressing your love in a hurry.

Women never like predictable men like the nice guy. The good guy is always smiling, doing good things; there is nothing different about him, and he is the kind which is totally into others to work as they like it. They are considered boring.  Women usually like men who are strong, know their actions and make the right decisions for themselves and others around them.

Being mysterious will give you some space in the thoughts of the person. Once you have made that position, the next thing is to impress the person. In this article, you will learn how to impress the person by knowing more about them.

Send Mixed Signals

Sending mixed signals can induce thoughts about you in the mind of the person. This is not like direct signals to say that you love the person. Maintain the mysterious nature and show it off in not so evident signs which will make the person think if you love the person. After all, everyone likes to be loved.

But the role of mixed signals is relevant only after capturing attention. If you have a person sending random signals without causing any attraction before it, will be neglected and forgotten. Once you gain the attention, you have to maintain the attention by staying visible. Even a few days of staying away can provide an opportunity for another person to gain the attention from the person you love.

Next step to stay mysterious comes after you have made the person obsessed with you. You can stay away for a day or two, and when you meet, you can remain distant. The person will try to reach out. Give up and become friendly and then go out of the scene again. This will make the person wonder about several things like if you love the person, why you behaved so last day, why you left. Etc.

Maintain your mystery, but do not become too aloof that the person things you are distant and unreachable and do not become too open that your emotions are easily given away, and the person loses interest in you. Keep a good track and never disappear for long periods as it will break the attention. Maintain the track with proper signals in right intervals so that the person doesn't forget you. Make your target reach a stage of utter confusion over your intentions and increased obsession. You can then give one last signal and then reappear to express your love.